“The mind is its own place, and in it self
Can make a Heav’n of Hell, a Hell of Heav’n.”
Yikes! The title probably caught your attention. What beliefs do you have about success and personal excellence? What programs do you have downloaded in the massive computer that is called your brain? Are they a plus in your quest for self-help motivation and personal growth development? Or are they holding you back and limiting what you will be able to achieve?
I give all the credit to Anthony Robbins from one of his first books, Unlimited Power : The New Science Of Personal Achievement. I hope not to disappoint you, but I am going to share seven truths that will assist you in your journey to your next level of personal growth, both personally and professionally.
Self Help Motivation Belief #1: Everything Happens For A Reason And A Purpose
Life is what we make it, always has been, always will be. ~Grandma Moses
Marilyn Hamilton was a teacher and beauty queen from Fresno, California. She survived a terrible accident after a hang-gliding accident that left her paralyzed below the waist.
She certainly could have focused on what she could no longer do. Instead, she channeled her thinking and energy on possibilities open to her. From the outset, she the limitations of her wheelchair frustrated her. She figured she could design a better one. She worked with a couple of friends who designed hang gliders.
They went on to form a company called Motion Designs, which revolutionized the wheelchair industry, and went on to become California’s Small Business of the Year. The company became a multi-million dollar enterprise.
I can tell you that the following responses to her situation would NOT have helped: Blaming, getting angry, stewing in self-pity, becoming a victim of helplessness.
Instead, she expected the following:
- that her best efforts would be successful
- that there was potential in every situation, no matter how negative it might seem
- that it was worth it to let go of anger, grief, blame (we need to honor and acknowledge this emotions, but then let them go)
Self Help Motivation Belief #2: There Is No Such Thing As Failure
The men who try to do something and fail are infinitely better than those who try to do nothing and succeed. ~Lloyd Jones
Notice the difference between what happens when a man says to himself, “I have failed three times,” and what happens when he says, “I am a failure.” ~S.I. Hayakawa
There is a man who failed in business at age 21.
He was defeated in a legislative race at age 22.
He failed again in business at age 24.
He overcame the death of his girlfriend at age 26.
He had a nervous breakdown at age 27.
He lost a congressional race at age 34.
He lost a congressional race at age 36.
He lost a senatorial race at age 45.
He failed in an effort to become vice-president at age 47.
He lost a senatorial race at age 49.
He was elected president of the United States at age 52.
The man’s name was Abraham Lincoln.
He would not have accomplished becoming president if he had believed that failure was something to avoid. Thomas Edison thought the same way about failure when going through his 9,999 attempts to invent the light bulb.
What is your attitude toward failure?
Self Help Motivation Belief #3: Whatever Happens, Take Responsibility
The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs. ~Joan Didion
Great leaders and achievers share this belief in common: “I am responsible. I’ll take care of it.”
New anchor Dan Rather states that President Jack Kennedy became a true leader during the Bay of Pigs incident.
From Wikipedia’s account:
The Bay of Pigs Invasion (known as La Batalla de Girón, or Playa Girón in Cuba), was an unsuccessful attempt by a CIA-trained force of Cuban exiles to invade southern Cuba, with support from US government armed forces, to overthrow the Cuban government of Fidel Castro.
Kennedy knew what ever great leader knows: Thos who take responsibility are in power. Those who avoid it are dis-empowered. And the same principle is true in your personal and professional life.
Self Help Motivation Belief #4: It’s Not Necessary To Understand Everything To Be Able To Use Everything
Inspirations never go in for long engagements; they demand immediate marriage to action. ~Brendan Francis
Action is eloquence. ~William Shakespeare
Truly successful people have a tendency toward action. There are many of us who wish to know all the facts before taking action. By the time we have done so, someone else has already taken that action and capitalized on it. This does NOT mean taking foolhardy and impulsive actions without effective planning.
But, once you have a strong plan, and once you have absorbed the facts before you, don’t be afraid to Take Action. Consistently, daily, one small step after one small step.
Successful people balance knowledge with action. There were probably plenty of scientists and engineers at Stanford and Cal Tech who knew more about computer circuitry than Steve Jobs or Steve Wozniack, but Steve Jobs and Steve Wozniack were the ones who were most effective in using what they had to get Big Results.
Jay Abraham, a small business consultant with an incredible tack record, has written a great book on this topic: Getting Everything You Can Out of All You’ve Got: 21 Ways You Can Out-Think, Out-Perform, and Out-Earn the Competition.
Self Help Motivation Belief #5: People Are Your Greatest Resource
When I worked at an educational institution as a personal counselor and advisor in the student services department, I was struck by how the President of the college interacted with every person he came in contact with: from the ‘least’ important person to the ‘most’ important person. Like all people and leaders of excellence, he had a tremendous sense of respect and appreciation for people. When you spoke to him, he never interrupted, and his eyes were riveted on you. He always asked penetrating questions, and then listened, leaning forward, and not missing a detail.
Great business and personal leaders set high goals for themselves, but have the humility to listen carefully, show appreciation for, and treat fairly those whom they work with.
The key here is that they do NOT see people as ‘things’ to be manipulated for a bottom line. They fully undertand that nothing than be acomplished apart from partnership with other people. But they serve those people and respect them; they do not seek to manipulate or deceive them.
One great book that summarizes this concept is The SPEED of Trust: The One Thing That Changes Everything, by Stephen M.R. Covey.
Self-Help Motivation Belief #6: Work Is Play
“When I work, I relax; doing nothing or entertaining strangers makes me tired.” Pablo Picasso
The key to finding work you love is to monitor your attitude and bring passion to what you do, while also discovering your passions and strengths. By designing your life mission statement, goals, and values, you can move ever forward toward bringing what you love together with what you do.
There are no dead-end jobs. The only dead-end jobs are those jobs in which a person who is performing the job has lost the sense of possibility, has refused to take responsibility for his/her life, and who has come to believe that failure is the only consequence of everything s/he tries.
Here is your challenge: bring the same curiosity and vitality to your job and your work as you do to your play. Pay attention to your strengths, and grow them. Pay attention to your weaknesses, and come up with a self development plan of action to minimize your weaknesses and maximize your strengths. Give it 100%!
Self Help Motivation Belief #7: There’s No Abiding Success Without Commitment
The drops of rain make a hole in the stone not by violence but by oft falling. ~Lucretius
Larry Bird was one of the best basketball players from the 1980’s. But he was seemingly slow, could not jump, and often seemed like he was playing in slow motion in comparison to some of the more fluid players around him.
Michael Jordan, one of the greatest basketball players of all time, was cut from his high school basketball team.
Steve Jobs was fired from the very same company that he founded!
And you read about all of Abraham Lincoln’s failed attempts before he became President of the United States.
What was the difference all of these people had in common versus thousands of others who have never gone anywhere in their lives, and are living lives of quiet desperation and mediocrity?
One word: Commitment.
It means practicing harder.
It means playing harder.
It means having more mental toughness.
It means getting more out of what you have than others around you.
It means taking more action than those around you.
It means developing a support group of others who support and inspire you, versus bringing you down.
It means studying the lives and key beliefs of those who have succeeded, and of those who are succeeding.
Equipped with these 7 beliefs, I believe that you will make a huge impact.
In the words of Erma Bombeck, columnist, author, and comedian:
When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, and could say, “I used everything you gave me.”
May these beliefs help you get there!
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